Met up with the two 36 year ladies (one is divorced with a child and one never married before). Met the formerly divorced lady at a bar, near her work, during happy hour. Conversation flowed well right from the start. Funny that one of the first things we said to each other was "you look better than your profile pictures". Apparently, she too took the route of posting honest, accurate, and some potentially less flattering pictures for her profile. Part of the reason for the good conversation flow is that we our shared background of being divorced recently. The other reason is I think we somehow got comfortable fast with each other. We chatted about lots of topics and "why online dating" was one of them. She is using online dating because it is easy access and user-friendly medium that she can blend easily into her busy work and personal schedules. I use it because it is access to large pool of people who share the same goal of dating someone and that's a huge plus when one is older and friends of friends are no longer single hence setups are harder (vs the younger years when friends of friends are single and looking).
I like her - looks and personality. Not sure if it's a potential romantic match yet but I look forward to seeing her again. The one thing that I was aware of before, during, and after the date was her child - can I handle adding another child into my life. I didn't want to think about it as it's too early to think about that but it just simply wouldn't leave my mind. Just have to tell myself, I'll need to decide this quickly if & when this gets serious and that I need to meet the kid before my mind wanders further on this topic.
Met up with the other lady for brunch over the weekend as that was only time she was free to meet up. She is career driven lawyer who has accomplished much so far. She too used online dating as it was best fit for her hectic work schedule. She was very blunt in stating her situation - clocking is ticking and she wants to meet someone to marry, have a child or two, etc before it's too late. After we chatted a while, it became clear to me she is operating on a more urgent timeline versus I was taking my time getting back into the dating scene. I disclose to her that I plan to seeing a few people at the same time until I get serious with one of them. She said she is OK with that but I didn't quite believe her as her body language indicated otherwise. I will still stay in touch with her but I am less confident if this will work out but won't rule on it until I have more time chatting with her and seeing her.
After this date, it did make the situation with the first lady (with the child) more appealing as her time line and pace of these dates are more in line with mine and the fact she already has a child might be a plus to me as I'm unsure of how I can add another child into my life - something I need to figure out quickly.
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